So, you’ve come to the conclusion that you’ve been living in that closet for far too long now… it seems as though you’ll never come out of self storage. You know you need to preserve the right amount of courage and love for yourself as you are before you begin the big reveal.
You’ve considered it on many occasions in theory, mapping out the whole process step by step in your mind yet actually stepping out in reality seemed more like crawling out of the sunlight away from the garlic fields in a bad vampire movie. You then decide, nah its not worth it. Ill just live here in my self-contained sexuality, no one really needs to know… until that fateful day in every human beings life!
It’s the day you meet that special lady. Then one that makes all this inner turmoil you’ve been dealing with all seem worth it.
She’s awesome, she’s gorgeous, has a fabulous personality and basically everything you look for in a woman. She’s your ideal match and you couldn’t be happier.
You have SO much in common it’s scary! There’s just one thing. She’s out! *gasp* You immediately start to panic, you’re not out, you’re not ready to come out, you look to your left (garlic fields) you look to your right (beaming rays of sunlight) you start to hyperventilate and hastily retreat to your quiet place in order gather your thoughts and calm that war zone currently taking place in your souls inner core.
Sitting in silence it dawns on you (no pun intended) you’re an A grade hypochondriac, you’re so concerned with what other people may say that you’ve sacrificed your own happiness . Finally you make the decision to counterattack your own stupidity and get out that damn closet!
Imagine the feeling of self worth? You breathe a HUGE sigh of relief, there’s sunlight all around, not even a faint scent of garlic… You’re out and you’re ok. You survived. Sure, there will be tough times ahead as you remain out of that closet, exposed to the Max or Maxine… but what’s important is that you no longer have to live in your own shadow. Your self-containment is over, you’ve been released from your self induced prejudice.
Life is good.
Lesbian life is better.
It’s as if you have been re-incarnated. You see yourself like you’d read a singles ad in the dating section of the pink pages: single hot female seeks equally hotter female to share in fabulously exciting lesbian lifestyle. You feel awesome, the weight has been lifted and you’re enjoying your “new” lifestyle.
Coming out can be a daunting experience but it’s something our colorful personalities all have to experience at some stage in our lives and putting it off can be disastrous when it finally pops up in the middle of a family dinner where your aunties “skinner” buddy spotted you cuddling your secret sister at your local mall coffee shop. So from my own past experiences I’d say it’s better to come clean so you can live your life out in the open and be proud of who you are!
Be a proud Homosapien and an even prouder homosexual, get out, come out and stay out!