I know many people who think marriage is an outdated, conservative, downright needy idea. Why do gay people want to marry? they ask. Not even straight people should marry. Marriage is irrelevant. It is a club for the insecure. The opposite of independence. If you’re really in love, you don’t need a piece of paper.

Fair enough; you don’t need a piece of paper to prove that you love someone. But you need intention, and commitment represents that. Loving only in the present is not enough. The most powerful love reaches into the past and stretches into the future. It keeps up its rhythm of caring when the circumstances are rough, hard, bad, confusing. Love delivers loving actions when the feelings are rebelling. And that is when a promise becomes so important. It is the glue that holds you together when you are weak, tired, human.

Commitment is not the opposite of freedom. Marriage becomes really relevant precisely when it nurtures your independence; helps you grow as your own person. I was in bondage in relationships where the love was weak; it was in a strong love that I found myself able to move, stretch, test my limits.

It’s a different point in time for every person, when one realises just what has happened. I realised when I was searching for your things in my room. I stood in front of my dresser straining my mind to remember what was not mine, and it occurred to me that you were like that pair of pants I offered to repair for you and the cosy socks you loaned me after an impromptu sleepover at yours. They were never meant to belong to me; they were only a loan. Except that I’d become so accustomed to their casual presence that I’d eventually accepted them as a part of my life and stopped believing they would ever leave. The pants, the socks, and you.

I'd like to share with you my Daily Bread.

I read this site religiously. In fact I have a bracelet - WWDD (What Would Dannielle Do) - ok not really.. but I wish I did.

www.everyoneisgay.com

Despite the title of their blog, Kristin and Dannielle do not mean to imply that everyone in the world is in fact gay, but rather that people and their questions/ issues are all the same, gay straight or otherwise. We all experience the same problems, hardships and heartaches and even in our lifestyle differences, the one thing we all have in common.. is Love.

Basic summary in used words: Kristin and Dannielle are Lesbian super heroes girls who like girls who give advice to those who are confused about sexuality, gender-identity, dating, falling in love, or even dressing up like Super Woman

I had the pleasure of meeting them and will tell you, they are awesome as the work they are doing for the LGBT community. Which is INSANE :)

below is the very first post of their I ever read. They now have webcasts and Personal Posts Saturdays Paturdays, Stageit gigs and tweets (follow: kristinnoeline // Dannielleor) and blogs and and and.

People aren't meeting their other halves in bars anymore. Apparently gay hiking groups are the way forward. Check it out.

Breakups. We’ve all been through them, and we all know it’s just slightly worse than having a tractor drive over your head repeatedly while having open-heart surgery with a blunt spoon.

What do you do when your heart has been broken? Hearts only have so many lives just like a cat is limited to nine, at least that's what is said.

You know what that is right? Someone, male or female, who on paper is straight but makes (intentionally or unintentionally) allowances for one to think that they might be gay.

A frustrating individual for many a queer-peer I’m sure. Why? Well in my experience this is how it usually goes down…

You meet this charming fellow by the bar through a friend. Rather interesting, and you immediately consider the fact that they may just be gay. He/she when asked will usually attest to being straight, and at the same time give you the idea that they’re not. They might sit closer to you than a friend usually does, they might stare in to your eyes intensely and they may even flirt. They will spend the entire evening enticed in you conversation and the mext day meet you for lunch. They might have a couple of O.G.T.’s (obviously gay traits), like limp wrist, flamboyant tone and a love for Lady Gaga. They and up spending copious amounts of time with you not caring what others think. In some cases they might even spend the night and spoon. But they’re straight...