Lesbians have issues. I have issues with lesbians. The world has issues with lesbians. Lesbians have issues with the world. And we all have issues with ourselves.
I have kept myself removed from more distinctive lesbian flocks for the majority of my happy-go-lucky life. Until recently.
In an attempt to overcome my judgements, I like so many tortured souls before me, have turned to writing. Well blogging. Cos it’s quicker and easier and people might actually read it. And this is all I will say on the matter.
Lesbians are different. We chose to not accept the typical ways of hetero life as what we want. We WANT different. And then we hate being branded as different. The inacceptance of not being accepted is mildly amusing to me most days.
So some guy asks some crude questions, or assumes you’ve been hurt by some other crude guy and wants to lay you even more. Or a random nobody in your life cracks a joke at our pussy licking ways. What absolute disrespect.
More understandably hard to find peace with, is when your family disapprove. Or worse - even harder to positive thinking away are hate crimes.
We are different. God, everyone on earth is different. There are Black homophobes, Gay racist, female sexists, Nigerian classists. Fuck, almost everyone doesn’t wanna date someone they consider ugly. And the lists of all the ways to be different and all the ways to be prejudice meet in equal proportion.
So why the fuss?
Most of you that read this are far removed from lesbian corrective rape really affecting your life. And the percentage of that that is actively involved tackling this issue is probably smaller.
Yet we are affected and offended by small innocent remarks.
And innocent because inacceptance is ignorant.
Ignorant that difference is normal.
And ignorance is innocent.
And when WE ALL come into contact with things we don’t understand, we either make fun of it, accept or not, or ask questions. For the purpose of deciding how this new information fits into our understanding of the world.
Being comfortable with being different does not mean being defiant against society or having a false shield from your own insecurities. Its simply acceptance. And it’s so resolute that other people’s inacceptance is accepted. And not holding people’s ignorance against them is the easiest way to enlighten them.
In a world where knowledge is power, the power we hold in accepting ourselves! Homophobia won’t need to exist because we no longer need to fight against it. We can see it for what it is. And being a lesbian for what that is. We can break divides.
Not because we have forced people to accept us or forced ourselves to come to terms with ourselves.
But just because we accept that difference doesn’t have to mean divided.
And we initiate those steps.